Wedding Planning 101: When it rains, it pours love

Prior to last weekend, my experience with “high tea” was limited. In fact, if you would have asked me how I felt about high tea, I would have told you that I LOVE IT because it’s a specialty cocktail served at my favorite restaurant in Madison, Wisconsin called Natt Spil.

Now, “high tea” has taken on an entirely new meaning to me. Last weekend was my third and final wedding shower in California. If the first two in Wisconsin weren’t enough, Sean’s family threw me a High Tea party in Orange County. It was a extremely special day with a lot of very special women.

When I first heard it was a “tea party,” I’ll admit, I was a bit skeptical. I’ve never officially had high tea, so I knew it would be an experience. But what I didn’t realize is that tea parties are awesome. It’s you and a bunch of women wearing cute summer dresses sporting vintage hats and sipping from old-fashioned tea cups. And, everything is mini! Mini sandwiches, mini cookies, even mini grapes. It was elegant, prim, proper, and most importantly: Delicious.

Course #1: Mini scones and tea.

That little flower you see floating in the tea comes from mini-sugar cubes with mini-flowers on them. You gingerly drop a cube in your cup and within minutes, the flower floats to the top. How adorable is that?

Course #2: A mini salad, mini sandwiches topped with mini asparagus and mini tomatoes, and mini grapes on the side.

Course #3: Mini cookies. And lots of them. Covered in sugar.

Course #4: Cupcakes (my favorite course). They weren’t mini, but being a cupcake connoisseur, I was totally OK with that. Look at the petal-like cupcake wrappers, and the real roses on top—oh, the detail!

This is Ellie. She is a tea party expert. You can hire her, as Mary Lou did, and she will come into your home (if you live in the OC) and host tea parties like this. Ellie is from Melbourne, Australia, so she even has an elegant accent that is appropriate for a high tea party. I am already looking forward to the next party I attend where Ellie is in charge. Oh, and I asked her how many cute, floral dresses are in her closet. The answer is, of course, too many to count!

Oh, and the best part of the weekend? Even better than the food, presents and new friends? My mom flew out and surprised me. I don’t know what it is, but having your mom at events like this is so special. Even though she semi-gave away the surprise a few days before the shower, it still meant the world to me that she flew out to the wedding shower. Love you, Mom 🙂

And the best part? Mom traveled all the way from Wisconsin with a set of tea cups that I inherited as a wedding gift. Originally purchased in the 1940s, these 15 cups and saucers have survived through generations of Shambeau women. I am so proud to carry on the tradition. These are my two favorite cups:

I couldn’t resist posting this photo of me with Sean’s grandmothers. I was so glad they were able to attend. It made my miss my own grandma, who is back in Wisconsin. Grandma, if you’re reading this: I miss you and can’t wait to see you in September!

And here I go getting carried away with photos… please bear with me! I had a hard time picking “just a few.” It was just too much fun! Here is me with the hostesses: Mary Jo and Mary Lou in the back (yes, we laugh that our moms have almost the same name), a dear family friend of the Busbys, Jan, on the left, and Sean’s sister Jenn on the right. Oh, and that’s me in the middle in the adorable white dress found on sale at Nordstrom Rack. Big kudos also to Kay Susnar, a dear friend of my mom’s who made my white, feathered headband. I thought it only appropriate (as I don’t have any chic hats) to don my “wedding headband” for the day as I did at the shower in Wisconsin.

Every detail, even down to the place card holders was  exquisite. They’re mini-bee hives!

I was absolutely overwhelmed with the kindness and love that was “showered” over me that day. Big thank you to Mary Lou’s friend, Santa (short for Santa Maria, not Santa Claus); she was in charge of taking many of these photos I was in. It was so great to meet you, Santa!

To close this post, I will leave you with a quote about love. Josie, another close friend of Sean’s family, was thoughtful enough to bring a stack of love quotes to the shower. The women passed them around and each read a few to me. Then, Josie took the quotes and bound them in a keepsake booklet. While I find all the quotes inspirational, the following is one quote that really spoke to me about my life, destiny, and my relationship with Sean.

Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart.

—Marcus Aurelius, Roman emperor

May you also be at peace with your fate and the loved ones in your life! Have a wonderful weekend.

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It was an incredible weekend with so many wonderful women. Thank you all for coming. The most treasured part was sharing it with “MY MOLLIE”, my beautiful daughter and soon to be bride! Love you MOM


Mollie, I was so excited for you when MJ told me she was surprising you. I joined your mom and dad for a delicious dinner before she left, so I got to see the teacups…they are beautiful! The shower pictures are great, thanks for sharing. You are going to make one of the most beautiful brides ever! It’s with my pleasure to help decorate for this very special day…can’t wait! See you soon! Bonnie 🙂


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